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Emotional Maturity

What we see above the iceberg is our outward behavior.  Under the iceberg are the pains and trauma that we have experienced in our lives. They who we are, how we relate to and love others.

God wants to use His Word to transform your heart.

Ephesians 1:18“Open the eyes of my heart”

This section is designed to help you look at yourself through an emotional health assessment.

Addressing Emotional Needs

Based on what you learn from the Emotional Assessment above, click the appropriate link below to learn more about those areas.

The steps we suggest in using this part of the website are to:

  1. Take the assessment  (preferably with a friend or coach)
  2. Look at scriptures from the lessons below.
  3. Spend time with God regarding the area of need.

This will ultimately bring health and heart transformation.

Time of Reflection

G.1: Loneliness – I Feel Alone- Loneliness. [Hebrews 3:13, 10:24-25 and I John 4:7-12]
What has been your most challenging experience with loneliness?  How did you overcome your feeling of being lonely?

G.2: Hopeless, despair – I am Fearful about the future. [I Peter 4:7-11]
What has been your experience of fear about the future? Where do you find your greatest hope at this time in your life?

G.3: Rejection / Self-image – I feel so Insecure. [Psalm 122:7-8, Isaiah 40:31, Psalm 112:1-10]
What causes you to feel insecure? What has contributed most to a positive self-image in your life?

G.4: Lack of Confidence – I don’t feel very Significant. [Philippians 1:6, Ephesians 2:10]
What has built or eroded confidence in your life? Who believed in you the most over the years?

G.5: Emotional Maturity Growth – How do I grow in Emotional Maturity? [Ephesians 4:13, Colossians 1:28-29]
Who has modeled emotional maturity in your life? Describe a person who is emotionally mature.

G.6: Emotional Maturity Levels – What are the levels of emotional Health? [I Peter 2:2, I John 2:12-13]
What are the characteristics of an emotionally immature person? What qualities of emotional maturity did Jesus reflect?

G.7: Deep Emotional Issues – Understanding the Iceberg? Man looks on the outward appearance. [1 Samuel 16:7]
Where does our heart fit into emotional growth? How does trauma affect emotional maturity?

G.8: Anger – How do I deal with Anger? [Ephesians 4:26-27]
When did you first experience in your life? What are the things that trigger your anger?

G.9: Anxiety, worry, Depression – I am covered with Sadness. [Philippians 4:4]
When do you feel the most anxious? What has been your experience with feeling depressed?

G.10: Guilt, Shame – Shame seems to chase me everywhere. [Romans 1:16; Romans 9:33]
How does guilt and/or shame play a role in your life? Tell us a story about when you experienced guilt or shame.

G.11: Sadness / Lack Joy – I want more Joy in my life. [Rom 15:13]
What causes you to lose your peace? What brings you the greatest joy?

G.12 Stress (political) – I am Fearful about politics. [Isaiah 46:10, Ephesians1:10]
What about your national politics causes you stress? How did Jesus view government/politics?

G.13: Fear / Phobias / Failure – I Fear my work has not turned out as I desire, I feel like a failure. [Psalm 63:1-3]
How have you dealt with failure? What gives you hope for the future?


Note to our international brothers & sisters:  Some of the resources below may only be available in English.

  1. READ:  Spirituality in Mental Health – by Rock House Center
  2. LINK:  Life Model Works website
  3. LINK:  Joy Stream website
  4. LINK:  Emotionally Healthy Spirituality website