Emotional Maturity

What we see above the iceberg is our outward behavior.  Under the iceberg are the pains and trauma that we have experienced in our lives. They who we are, how we relate to and love others.

God wants to use His Word to transform your heart.

Ephesians 1:18“Open the eyes of my heart”

This section is designed to help you look at yourself through an emotional health assessment.

Based on what you learn from the Emotional Assessment above, click the appropriate link below to learn more about those areas.

The steps we suggest in using this part of the website are to:

  1. Take the assessment  (preferably with a friend or coach)
  2. Look at scriptures from the lessons below.
  3. Spend time with God regarding the area of need.

This will ultimately bring health and heart transformation.

G.1: Loneliness – I feel Alone- Loneliness. [Hebrews 3:13, 10:24-25 and I John 4:7-12]
What has been your most challenging experience with loneliness?  How did you overcome your feeling of being lonely?

G.2: Hopeless, despair – I am Fearful about the future. [I Peter 4:7-11]
What has been your experience of fear about the future? Where do you find your greatest hope at this time in your life?

G.3: Rejection / Self-image – I feel so Insecure. [Psalm 122:7-8, Isaiah 40:31, Psalm 112:1-10]
What causes you to feel insecure? What has contributed most to a positive self-image in your life?

G.4: Lack of Confidence – I don’t feel very Significant. [Philippians 1:6, Ephesians 2:10]
What has built or eroded confidence in your life? Who believed in you the most over the years?

G.5: Emotional Maturity Growth – How do I grow in Emotional Maturity? [Ephesians 4:13, Colossians 1:28-29]
Who has modeled emotional maturity in your life? Describe a person who is emotionally mature?

G.6: Emotional Maturity Levels – What are the levels of emotional Health? [I Peter 2:2, I John 2:12-13]
What are the characteristics of an emotionally immature person? What qualities of emotional maturity did Jesus reflect?

G.7: Deep Emotional Issues – Understanding the Iceberg? Man, looks on the outward appearance. [1 Samuel 16:7]
Where does our heart fit into emotional growth? How does trauma affect emotional maturity?

G.8: Anger – How do I deal with Anger? [Ephesians 4:26-27]
When did you first experience in your life? What are the things that trigger your anger?

G.9: Anxiety, worry, Depression – I am covered with Sadness. [Philippians 4:4]
When do you feel the most anxious? What has been your experience with feeling depressed?

G.10: Guilt, Shame – Shame seems to chase me everywhere. [Romans 1:16; Romans 9:33]
How does guilt and/or shame play a role in your life? Tell us a story when you experienced guilt or shame?

G.11: Sadness / Lack Joy – I want more Joy in my life. [Rom 15:13]
What causes you to lose your peace? What brings you the greatest joy?

G.12 Stress (political) – I am Fearful about politics. [Isaiah 46:10, Ephesians1:10]
What about your national politics cause you stress? How did Jesus view government/politics?

G.13: Fear / Phobias / Failure – I Fear my work has not turned out as I desire, I feel like a failure. [Psalm 63:1-3]
How have you dealt with failure? What gives you hope for the future?


Often there can be small areas that hinder maturing. Rock House Center offers therapeutic disciple-making, providing an environment for Heart transformation. They have developed a Biblical process that helps believers surface hidden issues and take steps by the power of the Holy Spirit to be transformed.

You can see that transformation described in Romans 12:1-2.
“Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”

The 16 Key chapters of BE TRANSFORMED:

  1. One Man’s Transformation – How I Got Free From Depression
  2. Divine Needs – The Key to Defeating Anxiety
  3. Spirit of Life – What Makes You Tick & False Beliefs About God
  4. Breakthrough – Understanding Low Self-Worth
  5. Missing Message – God Wants Your Desire, Not Your Discipline
  6. Transformation – Fighting Over Dumb Stuff
  7. Semper Fi – Embracing Dependence on God
  8. House Divided – Why Children Rebel
  9. Heart Restored – Root Cause of Addiction
  10. Truth About Lies – Freedom from Shame and Unworthiness
  11. “Love Me More” –  Seeking Truth vs. Being Right
  12. Humility –  The Offense of Assumed Intent
  13. Trust –  Thanksgiving & Peace
  14. Oneness – God Isn’t Testing You, Comfort in Crisis & God is Just One Thought Away
  15. Love – How to Love God & Loving Authentically
  16. New Life – The What and Why of Losing Your Peace & Taking it Back

These subjects are the key content in each of the 16 chapters of a workbook called “Be Transformed.” Each chapter carries life stories, Biblical teachings, and daily worksheets to maximize change and ongoing growth. There are videos available and facilitators that can help coach through the process. Take a look at each of the chapter summaries and assess the areas most needed to be covered. We suggest you go from the beginning. The ideal results come from watching the videos AND doing the workbook provided by Rock House Center. For more information visit www.rockhousecenter.com. When you complete the assessment take steps to move forward in getting the resources for the internal maturity of your heart.

Prov. 22:17-19
“Pay attention and turn your ear to the sayings of the wise; apply your heart to what I teach, for it is pleasing when you keep them in your heart and have all of them ready on your lips. So that your trust may be in the Lord, I teach you today, even you.”


READ:  Spirituality in Mental Health – by Rock House Center

VISIT:  Rock House Center website

LINK:  Life Model Works website

LINK:  Joy Stream website

LINK:  Emotionally Healthy Spirituality website

Watch the video below and observe John’s journey of heart transformation and the emotional help he received from our friends at the Rock House Center.  Feel free to contact them for a complimentary counseling session.

Testimonial & Training Videos

Testimonial – John Shaw – Emotional Health

John shares his story of being a committed follower of Jesus until he had to face some dark corners of his life through emotional health coaching. Listen to the incredible work that God did to lead him back to wholeness in his life and love for his family and those around him.